How much is your love?

Sunday, October 19, 2008

Before we can educate the next generation, we need to look at how much do we love our parents. Children learn from modelling.



The person shown in the video is Wan Xi Hai. His father suffered a stroke and became paralysed. He has taken care of his father for 25 years...










If you are interested in the full articles(from different sources), read on...its in chinese though...maybe someone can translate that ? =)






25年护理植物人父亲大连孝子感动中国


5月15日,大连市西岗区站北街道一座普普通通的居民楼内,伴着美丽的鲜花、生日蛋糕以及亲属和街道领导们的掌声,大连孝子王希海的父亲度过了81周岁的生日。






25年来,王希海以自己默默无闻的行动,照顾着自己生活不能自理的父亲,不仅感动了成千上万的大连人,还被国家有关部门授予“中华孝亲敬老之星”的称号。






大连市第二人民医院院长王冰看了眼前的病人,情不自禁地说:“一位瘫痪在床20多年的‘植物人’,竟然浑身没有一点褥疮,至今80多岁高龄肌肉没有萎缩,还能有80多公斤的体重,这在医学护理史上简直是个奇迹!”
“父亲活着是我最大的心愿”

王希海每隔半小时就要给父亲翻一次身
王希海用自创的办法给父亲“刷牙”。






1980年,王希海的父亲因脑出血成了植物人。母亲体弱多病,弟弟又患有先天性肢体残疾,不能就业,全家的重担都落在了当时仅有23岁的王希海的肩上。面对这样的情况,王希海先是毅然放弃了去马来西亚工作的机会,后来又跟单位请了长假,直至最后下岗失业,25年来一直照顾生活不能自理的父亲。当时他就在心底发誓:一定要让父亲活到80岁。






王希海有两个哥哥和一个姐姐。王希海看到哥哥姐姐都已成家,家里也挺困难,就主动肩负起照顾父亲的责任。为防止父亲得褥疮,他每天都会隔半个小时就给父亲翻一次身,白天还要把父亲扶到轮椅上坐半小时到1小时,而且还要给父亲按摩、敲背五六遍。为了让父亲躺着舒服,他用8个枕头垫在后背、腿下等不同部位。






王希海的父亲自己不能吞咽,但他每天都要一勺一勺地让父亲吃下5顿饭:早晨5点,2块桃酥加半袋牛奶;8点,大米(或小米、绿豆)稀饭,再把一点胡萝卜或大头菜、芹菜、白菜等搅碎后炒一下,拌在稀饭里;中午12点,苞米稀饭加上半碗菜;晚上5点,面糊、菜加上一袋牛奶;晚上12点,2块桃酥加半袋牛奶。
王希海一直要照顾父亲到半夜12点半以后,后半夜由母亲替换。此外,王希海一天还要洗两大盆衣服或床单等衣物。母亲心疼儿子,让儿子去工作,自己照顾老伴,可儿子说:“你可不能倒了,要那样,两个人我也伺候不过来呀。”






去年9月,王希海突然发现父亲腿部发炎,连忙送父亲去医院。一位从医40多年的老教授看到老人的身体状况后,问他父亲瘫痪在床多长时间了,王希海说“20多年了”。老教授因为不相信一个老人瘫痪在床20多年还能保持得这么好,转身走了。可没多久,老教授又回来了,他手中拿着王希海父亲厚厚的病志说:“我从医40年了,从来没见过像你这样伺候老父的,你父亲有福啊!你该去医科大学给学生们讲讲护理课。” 据了解,目前已有人专门为王希海撰写护理经验方面的书籍。






为了照顾父亲,他放弃了工作和个人婚姻,如今48岁的王希海早已过了该成家的年纪。在他的生命中最重要的就是父亲。他说:“如果成了家,肯定会以家庭为第一位,照顾父亲的时间就少了;而我不成家,那父亲永远是第一位。这么些年来,有许多人要给我介绍对象,但我不能放弃父母家庭,我首先要做好的是一个儿子的角色。我觉得我很满足。”






2004年5月,王希海实现了自己24年前“一定要让父亲活到80岁”的承诺。如今,父亲依然活着,王希海说他仍会和以前一样精心地护理父亲,如果父亲能活到100岁,他就护理到100岁。
王希海年轻时最大的心愿是当一名船员,但为了父亲不得不放弃了。他说:“父亲的病我治不了,但在生活上、精神上给他安慰、照顾,却是我能做到的。只要父亲活着,我就感到高兴,感到幸福。”

“父母给了我们生命,我们要懂得报恩”






王希海与家人及街道干部一起为父亲过81岁生日
王希海正在给父亲按摩
王希海的母亲告诉记者,希海对他们两位老人照顾得无微不至,全大连也找不到第二个。老伴虽然没法表达自己的感情,但儿子能读懂老人的每一个微小的表情。






今年老人住院,王希海从父亲的表情中得知他血压有点高,就找来了护士,可护士说老人挺好的,在他的坚持下,护士给老人测了血压,果然老人的血压比较高,医生护士们都服了王希海。






“希海给父亲吸痰时,我看了都难受”,王希海的母亲拿出了一根胶皮管,她哭着让儿子说说给父亲吸痰的事。王希海有点不好意思地说:“这么多年,这根胶皮管救了父亲不知道多少次,没有它也许我早就没有父亲了。老父亲瘫痪多年不会自己吐痰,经常会被痰噎着。大连市第二人民医院给我了送了个吸痰器,但我就怕等插上电源以后就来不及了。或许有人感觉恶心,但为了父亲,我真是什么都可以做。”






为了给父亲刷牙,王希海真是想尽了办法。他先是用牙刷,发现牙刷对父亲的牙齿造成损伤;接着又用棉签、用纱布擦,也不行。王希海家养了3盆君子兰,一次在给花浇水时,他突发灵感:“用喷壶给老人刷牙行不行?”王希海在喷壶中装了温开水,一手握着喷壶向父亲嘴里喷水,一手拿着脸盆在下面接着,一试还真灵。他兴奋地说:“这可解决了大问题!”






一位社区负责人曾对王希海说,等他父亲“百年”之后一定帮他找个好姑娘。听了这话,王希海哭了。他说:“去年父亲80大寿,我好好给过了一回,当时我跟父亲说他活到什么时候,我就伺候到什么时候,我自己的事以后再说。虽然我失去了很多,但是父亲活着我从心眼里高兴,我害怕失去父亲,真的……”






王希海说,现在有些人以为钱是最重要的,其实人的生命才是最宝贵的,其他都是次要的。父母是最无私的,他们给了我生命,所以我就要全力以赴地保护他们,让他们幸福地度过晚年。看到别人的父亲身体好,在外面散步,我特别羡慕。






“苦恼、烦恼肯定会有”,王希海说:“但是,‘让父亲多活几年’的想法一直支撑着我,我不想留下遗憾。”
有了这种坚定的信念,王希海始终积极乐观地面对人生。他家里养了3盆君子兰,一年能开两次花;每天,王希海要做50多个俯卧撑,下午打半小时的盹,好使自己保持旺盛的精力;即使是冬天,也要开窗透气,保持室内空气的清新。






王希海说,背着“思想包袱”去侍候老人,自己也会苦恼;乐观积极地照顾老人,自己也会从中体验到乐趣。

“我就不信社会良心还能没有了”






王希海正在给父亲喂饭,他一天要让父亲吃5顿饭






王希海说:“这些年来我记不清有多少时间是在医院里陪着老父亲度过的。在老人的病床前,我看到了许多种类型的子女,他们中有些人的表现让我寒心。可能是我伺候父亲时间长了,看到别的老人有要求我也总愿帮忙。”






有一次,王希海看到和父亲同病房的一位老人瘫痪了,被四五个儿女送来后,儿女们就都不见了,只找来一个专职陪护员照顾老人。而陪护员也是糊弄了事,每天喂老人吃饭时也不管老人这一口是不是咽下去就紧接着又一口,老人经常被憋得满脸通红。王希海早上买来油条,老人吃了好几根。






护士们和王希海早已熟悉了,一见他又背着父亲来了,都主动上前帮忙,只要能提供的,一律抢先提供。有的家属就让王希海向护士要一张床,晚上好睡得踏实一点。他摇摇头,说:“我晚上每过半个小时就要给父亲翻一次身,如果我总在床上睡,习惯了以后每晚起不来照顾父亲怎么办?”






还有一次,王希海看到旁边病床上的老人身体状况非常不好,老人的儿子就在旁边伺候,但可能也知道老人时日无多,看到走廊里有家属在打扑克,他就和那些人一起玩,并叫王希海也过来“凑把手”。这把王希海气坏了,严词拒绝了他。看到老人孤零零地躺在床上,王希海不忍心,就像照顾自己父亲一样去照顾那位老人。几天下来,老人见到自己儿子过来时没有任何表示,但看到王希海走过来,眼睛总会动一下,王希海明白,那是老人高兴的表情。






王希海感慨地说:“我越是看多了这种让人寒心的事情,我就越要照顾好自己的老父亲,我就不信社会良心还能没有了。”

邻居们说,这是花多少钱也买不来的传统美德
为了让父亲躺着舒服,王希海用8个枕头垫在不同位置

提起王希海,邻居们都直伸大姆指。一位名叫董汝强的老人曾经与王希海的父亲是一个车间的工友。他说:“现在有的子女总想着跟父母要钱、要房子,有的甚至把老人赶出家门。但是希海为了老父亲,却把自己的一切都牺牲了、舍弃了,这不是谁都能做到的。”






他说,说心里话,象希海这样为父亲吸痰、按摩、半小时一翻身,我自己都做不到,我真的很感动。这是花多少钱也买不来的传统美德,全社会都应该树立这种美德,这样社会才会更加和谐。






还有一位老邻居说,希海这孩子特别善良,看到邻居大妈买菜上楼,都会主动帮助拎上去。这20多年来,楼里陆续走了十六七个老人,希海的父亲得病是最早的,谁也没想到现在还能活着,这多亏了希海啊。






社区卫生服务中心主任刘彩云说,“久病床前无孝子”,我在医院见的多了。王希海真的很难得。
“我不能以照顾父亲的名义敛财”

王希海正在给父亲吸痰

王希海的精神感动着每一个人,党和政府及一些企业、个人向他伸出了无数双手。从2000年起,他所在的站北街道为他办理并破格提高了低保标准,社区每月免费送来两箱牛奶,大连市第二人民医院经常送来日常需要的药品,社区卫生服务中心每月为他父亲普查一次身体。
一家企业也与他结成了帮扶对子,吸纳他成为企业的正式职工,享受企业职工的待遇,使王希海没了后顾之忧。
还有一些企业要为他捐款,北京一位女士甚至要出几十万元在大连为王希海买一套房子,并表示要嫁给他,这些都被他婉言谢绝了。






尽管王希海靠着父亲700多元的退休金和政府的低保,一家人生活得并不富裕,但王希海却说:“侍候自己的父亲是应当应分的,党和政府给我的帮助已经够多了,我不能以这个名义来敛财。”(完)





1980年,王希海的父亲因脑出血成了植物人。母亲体弱多病,弟弟又患有先天性肢体残疾,不能就业,全家的重担都落在了当时仅有23岁的王希海的肩上。面对这样的情况,王希海先是毅然放弃了去马来西亚工作的机会,后来又跟单位请了长假,直至最后下岗失业,24年来一直照顾生活不能自理的父亲。当时他就在心底向父亲承诺:一定要将您照顾到80岁。






大连:一孝子用真情创造护理奇迹






4月17日,大连孝子王希海在为父亲翻身。每半小时他就要为父亲翻一次身。
王希海以自己默默无闻的行动,24年如一日照顾着自己生活不能自理的父亲,不仅感动了成千上万的大连人,还被国家有关部门授予“中华孝亲敬老之星”的称号。新华社记者 闫平 摄
4月17日,大连孝子王希海在为父亲吸痰。新华社记者 闫平 摄

4月17日,大连孝子王希海在为父亲垫枕头。为了让父亲躺着舒服,他在不同部位为父亲垫了8个枕头。 新华社记者 闫平摄

4月17日,大连孝子王希海在为父亲喂饭。他一天要喂父亲5顿饭。新华社记者 闫平 摄
大连孝子24年只为父亲活着






又一个国庆节到了,昨天,家住站北街道万全社区的王希海背着比自己重很多的父亲下了楼,到大街上感受节日的喜庆。已不记得有多少个节日是在医院的病床前度过的,今年国庆节对王希海来说确实不同。记者来到王希海家时,他正在洗一大盆衣服、床单。






王希海的父亲今年80岁了,1980年因脑出血成了植物人,母亲体弱多病,弟弟患有先天性肢体残疾,不能就业,全家的重担都落在了当时仅有23岁的王希海的肩上。面对这样的情况,王希海毅然放弃了去马来西亚工作的机会,也放弃了个人成家的念头,24年来一直照顾生活不能自理的父亲。当时他给自己定的目标是照顾父亲到80岁,现在目标达到了,王希海又定下了新的目标:只要父亲还活着,我就感到快乐、充实。(大连晚报2004年10月4日消息)
老教授说 你该给大学生们讲护理课






今年9月,王希海突然发现父亲身上有了瘀青,他连忙送父亲去医院。一位从医40多年的老教授看到老人的身体状况后,问他父亲瘫痪在床多长时间了,王希海说“20多年了。”老教授转身走了,因为他不相信一个老人瘫痪在床20多年还能保持得这么好,觉得王希海是在骗他。可没多久,老教授又流着眼泪回来了,他手中拿着王希海父亲厚厚的病志说:“我从医40年了,从来没见过像你这样伺候老父的。你父亲有福啊,一个父亲该享受到的,他都有了。你该去医科大学给学生们讲讲护理课,比起你来,他们做的太微不足道了。” (大连晚报2004年10月4日消息)






为了父亲 47岁的他至今没有结婚






如今47岁的王希海早已过了该成家的年纪,为了照顾父亲,他放弃了许多,包括工作和个人婚姻。。在他的生命中最重要的就是父亲,他说:“如果成了家,肯定会以家庭为第一位,而我不成家,那父亲永远是第一位。这样我才能一心一意的照顾父亲。这么些年来,有许多人要给我介绍对象,但我不能放弃父母家庭,我首先要做好的是一个儿子的角色。”王希海每天晚上都会隔半个小时就给父亲翻一次身,每晚12时准时喂父亲吃下第6顿饭。他80岁的母亲每天去大菜市拣菜叶、拣纸壳“锻炼身体”,她让儿子去干活,自己照顾老伴,可儿子说:“你可不能倒了,要那样,两个人我也伺候不过来呀。” (大连晚报2004年10月4日消息)





多年的照顾 他明白父亲任何微小的表情






王希海的母亲告诉记者,老伴虽然没法表达自己的感情,但儿子能读懂老人的每一个微小的表情。“每天晚上,儿子固定会过半个小时来给他翻一次身,他也早已熟悉了儿子的脚步声,每到儿子过来时,他都会屏住呼吸,兴奋地等着儿子来给他翻身,因为每次儿子都会给他按摩,让他舒服舒服,那是他最高兴的事。”
今年老人住院,王希海从父亲的表情中得知他血压有点高,就找来了护士,可护士说老人挺好的,在他的坚持下,护士给老人测了血压,果然老人的血压比较高,医生护士们都服了王希海。(大连晚报2004年10月4日消息)






父亲有痰 儿子拿胶皮管口对口吸出来
在记者要离开时,王希海的母亲拿出了一根胶皮管,她哭着让儿子说说给父亲吸痰的事。王希海有点不好意思地说:“这么多年,这根胶皮管救了父亲不知道多少次,没有它也许我早就没有父亲了。老父亲瘫痪多年不会自己吐痰,经常会被痰噎着,每次我都把这根管子的一头伸到父亲嗓子里,另一头放在自己口中,我用力一吸,父亲口中的痰就进到了我的口中,然后我再吐出来。或许有人感觉恶心,但为了父亲,我真是什么都可以做。” (大连晚报2004年10月4日消息)

有很多年了 他没有逛过商场
万全社区书记王淑贞说,有一次在大连商场里看到了王希海,当时他跑得满头是汗,手里提着一箱牛奶。她问他为什么跑,王希海说自己只有半个小时的时间,赶紧买了奶回去还得给父亲换姿势。牛奶是父亲的主要食物,他为了省钱一路从家里跑到大连商场。王书记对他说买牛奶不一定要到大连商场,可王希海的回答让王书记大吃一惊。原来王希海已经有很多年没有逛过商场了,他不知道连锁超市里卖的也是有保障的牛奶,他只认大连商场,只知道那里卖的是好奶。为了让父亲喝上好奶,他要在半个小时内跑上二三公里路。
王书记告诉王希海,等父亲百年之后一定帮他找个好姑娘。听了这话,王希海哭了。他说:“今年父亲80大寿,我好好给过了一回,当时我跟父亲说他活到什么时候,我就伺候到什么时候,我自己的事以后再说。因为他活着,我从心眼里高兴,我害怕失去父亲,真的……”(文/图 大连晚报记者卢真珍)
新华网大连4月18日专电(记者闫平)大连孝子王希海以自己默默无闻的行动,24年如一日照顾着自己生活不能自理的父亲,不仅感动了成千上万的大连人,还被国家有关部门授予“中华孝亲敬老之星”的称号。
大连市第二人民医院院长王冰看了眼前的病人,情不自禁地说:“一位瘫痪在床24年的‘植物人’,竟然浑身没有一点褥疮,至今80岁高龄肌肉没有萎缩,还能有80多公斤的体重,这在医学护理史上简直是个奇迹!”
1980年,王希海的父亲因脑出血成了植物人。母亲体弱多病,弟弟又患有先天性肢体残疾,不能就业,全家的重担都落在了当时仅有23岁的王希海的肩上。面对这样的情况,王希海先是毅然放弃了去马来西亚工作的机会,后来又跟单位请了长假,直至最后下岗失业,24年来一直照顾生活不能自理的父亲。当时他就在心底向父亲承诺:一定要将您照顾到80岁。
王希海有两个哥哥和一个姐姐,均已成家。从那以后,王希海主动肩负起照顾父亲的责任。每天晚上,他都会隔半个小时就给父亲翻一次身,每晚12时准时喂父亲吃下第5顿饭。为了让父亲躺着舒服,他用8个枕头垫在后背、腿下等不同部位。老人瘫痪多年不会自己吐痰,经常会被痰噎着,每次他都把一根胶皮软管的一头伸到父亲嗓子里,为父亲吸痰。
去年9月,王希海突然发现父亲身上有了瘀青,他连忙送父亲去医院。一位从医40多年的老教授看到老人的身体状况后,问他父亲瘫痪在床多长时间了,王希海说“20多年了”。老教授转身走了,因为他不相信一个老人瘫痪在床20多年还能保持得这么好。可没多久,老教授又流着眼泪回来了,他手中拿着王希海父亲厚厚的病历说:“我从医40年了,从来没见过像你这样伺候老父的。你父亲有福啊,一个父亲该享受到的,他都有了。你该去医科大学给学生们讲讲护理课,比起你来,他们做的太微不足道了。”
如今48岁的王希海早已过了该成家的年纪。为了照顾父亲,他放弃了工作和个人婚姻,在他的生命中最重要的就是父亲。他说:“如果成了家,肯定会以家庭为第一位,而我不成家,那父亲永远是第一位。这么些年来,有许多人要给我介绍对象,但我不能放弃父母家庭,我首先要做好的是一个儿子的角色。我觉得我很满足。”
2004年8月,王希海实现了自己24年前的承诺。如今,父亲依然活着,王希海说他仍会和以前一样精心地护理父亲,如果父亲能活到100岁,他就护理到100岁。
王希海说:“父亲的病我治不了,但在生活上、精神上给他安慰、照顾,却是我能做到的。只要父亲活着,我就感到高兴,感到幸福。”(完)

How much do love weigh?

Filial piety, or love for your parents can have many benefits.

1) Motivation to do well. How long can you motivate your child to learn using monetary terms? A thirteen year-old child from Sichuan plotted to murder his parents to inherit the money from the insurance policies that his parents has taken up. Why did he needed the money? He wanted to buy a mobile phone!

In another case, a child was raised up in a wealthy family. He was used to getting whatever he wants from his parents. The money that he demanded increased. He father refused and sent him to the army. As he was too used to his old habits, he demanded money again from his father upon coming back. His father refused and he hired an assasin to kill his father. As the key to the safe was with his mother, he killed his mother as well.

Money is never a solution or a means to educate or motivate your child. When you use sweets or money to make your child behave, is the child listening to you or the rewards that you are dishing out. In the future, who does your child listen to?

By contrast, a teacher shared that a child who got over 90 was sad because he did not want his mother to worry for him. If his mother was worried for him, his mother will get more wrinkles.

2) Sense of shame.
As mentioned in the previous post, children are willing to change for the better because they do not want to bring shame to their family. By contrast, children who do not have love for their parents stray easily.

Many times, both parents work in the hope of letting the child grow up in a better environment. In the end, they use money to compensate for the lack of time spent with the child. They do not understand the child and may let the child have his or her own ways as they do not want to spoil or make the child unhappy in the little time that they have to spend with the child. I leave you to imagine the horrors seen in a child who grows up in this kind of environment.

3) Government can spend less money on social benefits on caring for abandoned parents.

Who Do I love?

http://vsearch.cctv.com/plgs_play-CCTV12prog_20080324_2976394.html

The programme produced by CCTV shows how convicts are willing to reform because of filial piety.
It may sound very cliche but its true.

http://www.hnjyw.gov.cn/show.asp?id=492
In the article, also from the same prison, it tells the story on how a convict wandered off the stray path because of the lack of care and concern given by his parents. His grandmother helped to take care of him but it wasn't enough. Eventually , the reason for his reform is again attributed to his love and understanding of his mother.

 大明重病住院。他妈得知消息后,从一百多里外的县城匆匆地赶到了医院。听医生说,大明手术后需要输血,她便不顾自己体质虚弱,毫不犹豫地挽起了袖子……。  Da Ming was seriously ill. Upon knowing that he needed a blood tranfusion for an operation, she agreed despite of her bad health.

对大明来说,只要有人与他提起他妈,他的头总是摇得像拔浪鼓,只叫快换台。大明真的恨透了他妈,他永远也忘不了十几年前的那天。那是一个朔紧吹的日子,奶奶抱着高烧未退的大明,坐在法庭那冰冷的排椅上,听爸爸说:“生意忙,孩子又小,我照顾不了他。”“我有工作……”。妈妈紧接着说。此时的大明觉得自己简直是一个乒乓球,被爸妈推来推去,谁也不愿留在他的身边。从此,爸妈的话像火烙一样印在了大明幼小的心里,因此,他恨爸妈。  无奈大明只好跟随奶奶过日子。 Whenever the topic of his mother comes up in conversations, Da Ming would change the topic. He hated his parents. More than ten years ago, he had a high fever. His grandmother carried him outside the court.

"Business is busy, he is so small, I can't take care of him,"said his father.
"I have my job,"his mother continued quickly.

At this moment, Da Ming felt like a ping pong ball that was being passed back and forth between his parents. Nobody was willing to stay by his side. The short conversation left an inerasable mark in his young heart. From then onwards, he hated his parents and followed his grandmother without much choice.


一天天长大的他,由于失去了爸妈的呵护、疼爱和教育,他开始逃学,与社会上一些不务正业的人交往,学会了抽烟、喝酒……整日里无所事事,放荡不羁。在一次群殴中出了人命,大明被判刑入狱。He grew up without the love , care and teachings of his parents. He began to skip school and started mixing with bad company, picking up smoking and drinking. Finally, in a fight, someone was killed. He was imprisoned.

妈知道后,一次次来接见他,他都一次次拒绝。一封封来信,他连看都不看就付之一炬,他总是说:“我不认识她。His mother went to visit him after she knew what had happened. She was rejected again and again. She sent him many letters but it was left unseen.
He would always say, "I do not know her."

  妈的血液输入大明的体内,大明的脸庞又开始变得红润起来。看着日夜不离左右的妈妈,大明心里真不知是啥滋味,他多想说句感谢妈的话,可一想到十几年前,话到嘴边又咽了回去。As his mother blood flowed in his body, his faced turned red. Looking at his mother who had kept a vigil by his bed he wanted to thank his mother. However, when he thought of what had happened more than ten years ago, he kept quiet again.

出院那天,大明妈留给他一封信,静静地走了。不知怎么回事,这封信对大明来说总觉得比以前的信有吸引力,他想知道信的内容,于是,他将信打开了 On the day that he was discharged, his mother had left him a letter. For some reasons, he wanted badly to know the contents of the letter. He opened the letter,"

:大明,我的孩子,十几年来,妈一直生活在痛苦的煎熬中,事业让我经历了失败与成功,可我却失去了家庭,失去了爱子——你。多少次在梦中,妈妈把你揽在怀中,吻着你那稚嫩的脸蛋;多少次梦中惊醒,我反复问自己,我还是一个母亲吗?多少次……我总是在深深责怪自己。可是,孩子,为了事业,妈只好拾起虚伪的面具,扮演女强人的角色。听到你被判刑,我好似五雷轰顶,心急如焚,假如能用我的生命、我的一切去挽回你的犯罪的话——我情愿。大明,你是妈唯一的精神支柱,虽然妈并不称职,但我不能再失去你……。
My dear child, I have been living in pain and anguish for more than ten years. I have experienced failures and sucess in my career but I have lost my family and you. Many times, I have dreamt of kissing you in my arms. i asked myself repeatedly,"Am I still a mother?" I have blamed myself many times. I have been wearing a mask for my career. I was devastated when I heard about your imprisonment. I would gladly give up my life if I could use it in exchange for your imprisonment. You are my only mental support. Although I have not been a good mother, but I do not want to lose you.


  大明的双眼模糊了,妈妈的痛苦表情像电影一样在眼前闪现,他的心中像打翻了五味瓶,上下翻滚,两行热泪热下了双颊。此时,他才真真知道了妈妈的一切确实不容易。他犹豫再三,决定给妈写一封信。Da Ming's eyes blurred. He felt his mother's pain and anguish. After much deliberation, he decided to write a letter to his mother.

  “妈妈,请您原谅儿子的不孝、不懂事,我错了,我错怪了妈妈,没想到妈心里装着别人看不出来的苦衷,都怨我自己不争气,不去好好做人,才落得如今下场,让您的心又……。妈,请您放心,我一定会听政府的话,踏实改造,同时,我也会加倍去珍惜妈妈给我的这份迟来的爱……。"Mum, please forgive me for being un filial. I am wrong. I have misunderstood you. I did not know your masked anguish. Its all my doing for landing up in the prison. I will listen to the government and change my ways. I will treasure this delayed love that you have given me."

Its posted online and I am just trying to do a translation. It may not be correct. Please correct me if you spot any mistakes.

Mummies Alive!


In this time of age where hand made gifts are replaced with expensive and exqusitely produced presents, hand made cards become a rare commodity.



Two cards caught my eyes.










Hmm....when did I become a mum?




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Actually, Its a card made by my student to her mum.


The student thanked her mum for her hard work, and promised to give her mum glasses of water. After she give a glass of water to her mum, her mum will sign on the card. Her mum asked her to show me this card. =)




This is another card given to me on Teachers' Day. (Yup, I am a procrastinator)




I had given the class lessons on the pains that their mothers had to go through to bring them into this world. Then, we will come up with ideas on how to thank their mothers. Many a times, we (myself included) would want to be filial to our parents but do not know how to go about doing that.


Many times, students do want to follow our instructions but do not know how to go about doing that.


For example, in the past , I would always holler at my students to line up in two straight lines to no avail. Thus, I taught them how to line up in two straight lines.


i.e. Make sure your shoulders are aligned with the shoulders of your friend standing in front.


Sometimes sadly, students(including myself in the past) do not understand why they need to be filial to their parents.


Are we being filial to the most important people in our lives? If you are still interested, read my next post.

Animal School

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

The Animal School: A Fable
> by George Reavis


Once upon a time the animals decided they must do something heroic to meet the problems of a “new world” so they organized a school. They had adopted an activity curriculum consisting of running, climbing, swimming and flying. To make it easier to administer the curriculum, all the animals took all the subjects.

The duck was excellent in swimming. In fact, better than his instructor. But he made only passing grades in flying and was very poor in running. Since he was slow in running, he had to stay after school and also drop swimming in order to practice running. This was kept up until his webbed feet were badly worn and he was only average in swimming. But average was acceptable in school so nobody worried about that, except the duck.

The rabbit started at the top of the class in running but had a nervous breakdown because of so much makeup work in swimming.


The squirrel was excellent in climbing until he developed frustration in the flying class where his teacher made him start from the ground up instead of the treetop down. He also developed a“charlie horse” from overexertion and then got a C in climbing and D in running.


The eagle was a problem child and was disciplined severely. In the climbing class, he beat all the others to the top of the tree but insisted on using his own way to get there.
At the end of the year, an abnormal eel that could swim exceeding well and also run, climb and fly a little had the highest average and was valedictorian.

The prairie dogs stayed out of school and fought the tax levy because the administration would not add digging and burrowing to the curriculum. They apprenticed their children to a badger and later joined the groundhogs and gophers to start a successful private school.

Does this fable have a moral?
http://www.childpsychologist.com/

Healthy Living

Sunday, October 12, 2008

Nowadays, people are realising the harm that
artificial chemicals such as preservatives
and pesticides can do to our body.
Some pictures from my recent trip to Lujiang.

A vegetable farm in Lujiang tries to
cultivate crops without the use of pesticides.


Basically , the more pesticides you spray,
the insects simply become more immune to them.

So, how do you get the insects to stay off your crops?

Ask them!





They set aside a small piece of land to grow some crops that the insects like.





A letter written to the insects is set up at the farm.
In the letter, they invite insects to the "insect resturant" to enjoy their meal
and a designated area to rest.

The insects are told the aim of the cultivation is
to regain people's confidence in traditional farming.

The insects are also told to avoid areas where people worked to avoid injuring
them.

Finally, forgiveness is seek if any injuries to the insects are resulted.

"Absurdity!?" I hear you say?

Look at the results.



Plot of insect restaurant








Normal plot for human consumption

Chemistry gives me love, Biology gives me love


Question: Why do rich and developed countries

who can afford to consume lots of meat and milk

have a highter rate of osteoporosis?

( Frassetto LA, Todd KM, Morris C, Jr., et al. 2000)


Answer: It's not how much calcium you take
but how much calcium you lose.


Apparently, animal protein causes the body
to lose calcium three to four hours after consumption.
(Hegested M, Schuette SA, Zemel MB, et al. 1981)


Why is that you ask?


Basically it has got to do with the PH value
of our body and the food we eat.



Our body releases calcium in order

to neutralise the abnormal acidity in our body.

Acidic Food: Milk, Meat, Fish,

Cheese, White sugar, Alcohol.

Alkaline Food: Vegetables, Fruits, Cereals,

Seaweed, Most plant based food.

"How can acidity affect me?" you asked.

It can caused Fatigue, lower your intelligence, allergy
formation of stones in your body, Cancer, Mouth odour
Hardening of arteries, High blood pressure, Flu ,Pains in the joints
Loosening of the skin, Increasing the speed of the loss of calcium,
Wrinkles, slow in healing, Scars.

PHEW!

So where then can I get my calcium?!!!

Soya beans and lots of vegetables like seaweed and celery .

On a side note,

the iron intake in one bowl of spinach

is equivalent to 2000 litres of milk!

Imagine your normal mineral water bottle is almost 500 ml.

1000ml = 1l

2000000ml =2000l

4000 X 500=20000.

Thus, you will need to consume 4000 bottles of milk

to get the equaivalent amount of iron you find in a bowl of spinach!

The Day I Stopped Teaching

Saturday, October 4, 2008

http://www.makeadifferencemovie.com/

For somw reasons, I'm having difficulties uploading the video.

Do go to the link and watch it. It's simply lovely! =)

Face Off

What is the meaning of listening? Let us compare the traditional and simplified version of writing the chinese word "listen"



聽 vs 听


Traditional vs Simplified










Treat the speaker like the king .



How do you achieve that?


By using your one heart to listen,
giving the speaker your full concentration.


By using your ears to listen out for the tone thereby the mood.


By using your eyes to give your full attention
and to look out for the feelings of the speaker.












Now let us look at the simplified version.

You listen by using your mouth?

Hmm...does that mean you judge and speak before the speaker
has a chance to finish speaking?



The word 斤 is also used in 斤斤计较
literally meaning you haggle over every kilogram.
It means you are calculative.


Hmm...so you judge the speaker
and is calculative over what the speaker says?
Doesn't seem very gracious and accepting, is it?





I think it is by using the former way of listening ,
that you will be able to communicate and learn effectively.



Afterall, if we are too arrogant to listen and
judge the speaker before really listening,
how can we expect to gain anything?




By the way, I am not sure whether
this is really the authentic way of
analysing the two versions of the
same chinese word.


The analysis on the traditional version is
based on what I heard at a counselling course,
and the latter is based on
a discussion I had with my mum.




Do give feedback if there is a
better way of analysing the words. =)